Comparison and Competition

I began to touch briefly on this topic in my last blog post, but I felt it was an important one to truly expand upon. This is the way the current world sees it: A woman wears a tight and short dress with her favorite pair of stilettos. She looks in the mirror and thinks “I feel good about myself”, but the world thinks she’s a slut. A woman wears a long skirt and a sweater. She looks in the mirror and thinks “I feel good about myself”, but the world thinks she’s a prude. A woman publishes her first makeup tutorial to YouTube and thinks, “wow, this is truly my favorite hobby”, but the world thinks she’s too superficial and has no substance. A woman bundles up on a Friday night with her favorite book and thinks, “wow, this is truly my favorite hobby,” but the world thinks she’s too much of an introvert with poor people skills.

Unfortunately, women just cannot win, so you might as well be yourself because the sad truth is, either way the world is going to judge. However, as I had begun discussing last month, women themselves have been raised to be an unfortunate perpetrator to this judgemental world. This blog post will not be absurdly long, as there’s no need for it to be. I’m going to get straight and to the point. If someone would feel more comfortable in their own skin by getting plastic surgery to achieve their ideal body, so be it. If a person would feel more comfortable in their own skin by eating the food they want and doing what they want instead of dieting and follow strict health regiments, so be it. If a person would feel more comfortable in their own skin by exercising daily and making sure they get their daily dose of vegetables, so be it. If a person would feel more comfortable in their own skin by wearing makeup, not wearing makeup, dressing in short skirts, wearing sweatpants, flat ironing their hair, throwing it up in a bun, going to a party on a Friday, studying on a Friday, having multiple sexual partners each week, or maintaining abstinence, whatever the case may be, SO. BE. IT.

By judging the choices other free women have the right to make, we are only perpetrating misogyny; we are only perpetrating the idea that one “type” of woman is better than the other, when all women who are kind are amazing women. The world is going to judge women for being women. So be it. Might as well be yourself, enjoy life, and not worry about what others feel good doing.